Posted by: tituteo | May 26, 2005

My Extended Family

I just realised that I have a new family. Heh, it’s easy to get married and feel married. But it’s a different feeling when it finally sinks into my little head that I have married his family too! Last weekend we visited my Man’s sister’s new home. With all of us in her house, it suddenly dawns on me that hey, this is my new family, that I’ve got to get used to! They are my surrogate family outside the family I was born into. I’ll be with them for the rest of my life! I’ve got to care for them, and to love them from now, get to know them, to belong!

It feels good to have a new family, a new home. His relatives are now mine! It’s great! I grew up in a family where relatives are material and everything is related to money and benefits. We see our relatives once a year on Chinese New Year and never talk at other times. No love lost! Now, everytime we return to KL, we’ve got his aunties swooning over us, pampering us with food and LOVE! I feel so Blissful!! This is what relatives are meant to be! They are family, there should be unconditional love. I always yearned for that, but never understood it till now!

I am such a sucker for acceptance. I feel so welcomed into his family by the little things they do! Like when his dad asks for me when I am not by my Man’s side. Or even, when Dad-in-law asked me to add up his bills for him! Whew! Can you beat that??!! Sharing of confidence Heh heh, yup, cheap thrill, you’ll think!

It means a lot to me that his family loves me. At this age and time when young married couples refuse to stay with their parents, I really value my ties and I always envisioned living with in-laws! Heh, but fate has it that my in-laws are far away in the next country, so I’ll love to try to make the best of every visit! While every other daughters-in-law get to see their in-laws often, I only see them like 12 times a year! How do you bond with people you hardly meet? So you girls out there, make the most of your in-law visits ah!


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