He Completeth Me
Wednesday, 9 May 2007 @ 12:15am • Family
Current Mood: 
Thankful
The Man’s away on yet another business trip and I’m kind of dreading the night. Seth’s tummy wasn’t all that well yesterday night and I got really frustrated with his incessant crying. I didn’t know what to do. He just would not stop crying. And just as I thought I’ll go crazy, the Man woke up and picked up the wailing baby from where I ‘dumped’ him. He held Baby and coaxed him until all the gas came burping out and Seth fell immediately asleep again. What would I have done without him? Ah… I’ll find out tonight…. =/
We have often heard complaints from fathers who claim that their wives push the babies to them them the minute they got home from work. Being a ‘traditional’ woman in a sense, I used to reproach the wives for disturbing the husbands after their long day of hard work outside. However, now that I’m a mum myself and a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM) at that, I’m starting to feel otherwise.
After a hard day of work outside, men tend to think we women are enjoying ourselves relaxing at home the whole day. They do not understand our hectic schedule, our fight with the clock, washing things, feeding the baby, making him sleep, bathing him…. Women at home on the other hand, feel that the men are having a great time outside, away from the wails and frills of parenting! All they want at the end of the day is for the men to take over while they get their well-deserved break!
In my case, I do get depressed sometimes when I feel too cooped up at home. And when the Man returns, I just want him to take over the feeding so that I can have my break, have a nice hot shower, squeeze a pimple maybe… =/ On the other hand, it’s also a chance for him to bond with the baby. Since I’m with the child the whole day, it’s only wise for the father to spend some time with his son so the son will not choose me over daddy. Right? But I’m not half that bad… Nowadays I’ll do all the night feeds myself, giving the Man more sleep so he’ll be alert for work.. Okay… Maybe I can’t help it since he sleeps like a log and cannot be woken up by the baby’s cries!
So last night was a real challenge for me and I was glad when he finally woke up and took over just as I was on the verge of losing my sanity. It makes me understand why God gave us parents. One compliments the other. Each serving as a support for the other. And what I can’t do, he completes for me.
Wini says:
God has a reason for pairing certain people together
Hope you’d cope okay without your other half. Can i just say Seth is so so adorable? I hope he’s feeling better now.
Stvn is away on business trip too.
Wednesday, 9 May 2007 @ 10:22pm
Joelle says:
yeah.. that’s why we are made whole in marriage. =D
Seth’s better now thou he’s still full of wind… =/ at least he’s burping and not throwing them up…*keeps fingers crossed*
I feel really worried whenever he’s away. it’s weird, since he’s at work most of the time anyway and we only spend evenings together. but when he’s overseas, it’s like u miss him anytime of the day! heh! do u feel that way? and i’m ashamed to say, i’m the most ‘prayerful’ when he’s away… -,-”
Wednesday, 9 May 2007 @ 11:53pm
Wini says:
It’s the perceived availability i say. When he’s in town you know that you can get him anytime or at least he’d be home at night. Being out of town is just different. Yes, i do miss him more. In fact, i’d feel it most just as he’s about to leave and he’d be so amused by it.
Thursday, 10 May 2007 @ 11:10am
Joelle says:
haa… ya!! it’s a irony whenever i say to him,”i miss u already” when he’s still around… heh. you’re right! it’s like we know he won’t be there when we need him, and vice versa. that’s why we feel the distance more. that’s why the saying goes, “absence makes the hearts grow fonder..” =D
Thursday, 10 May 2007 @ 11:19am
shez says:
hi joelle, I totally agree with the desire to pass on the baby to the hubs like a hot potato
Especially since cranky time is usually in the evening! You’re right though, guess that’s why we complement each other! (btw, sorry I called u Sara… tot that was your name from your blog title! oops!)
Monday, 14 May 2007 @ 3:42pm
Joelle says:
hee..no worries! =D
you’re right about the cranky times. it’s like the baby turns cranky when he sees daddy! it’s hard for me to make him believe that the boy’s an angel in the day, for he only sees the monster when he’s back. =/
Monday, 14 May 2007 @ 10:58pm
jesuisgentile says:
hey! thanks for ur comment on my post.. hopped by out of curiosity and hey! I found someone in similar shoes (a SAHM and someone who wish her husband would sleep less soundly! ha!)..
Wednesday, 23 May 2007 @ 8:04pm
Joelle says:
Hi Astro! KeKe.. welcome to the club of sleepy husbands!! =P
I’m so glad I’m not alone in this SAHM world! And I had the thinking that women nowadays are so career minded they won’t stay home. Or at least, that’s what all my friends are! I’m glad I found so many like-minded friends in the LJ Community. =D
Wednesday, 23 May 2007 @ 10:47pm
jesuisgentile says:
hahaha… i AM career minded.. juz that i chose to stay at home for my boy this time.. i believe that education stays from young having been exposed to youths who could have been much better in terms of character and studies…i blamed it all on poor parenting..
(no prizes for correctly guessing my former job 
).. and once he has a good foundation.. i can go climb all the corporate ladders that are available.. 
Monday, 28 May 2007 @ 2:33pm
jesuisgentile says:
hey,, regarding ur baby ’s wind problem.. can try adding gripe water/infanol/ridwind into ur baby’s feeds (if on formula) or juz into his mouth before feed (if breast feeding).. it helps a lot… can check with ur paediatrician on that…
Monday, 28 May 2007 @ 2:36pm
Joelle says:
yup! i am now using infacol. plus dr brown’s bottles. i’m a kiasu mum. i tried everything possible and it more or less helped. eventually, over time, his tummy has grown stronger. now he can keep the milk better. thanks!
and yes! i believe that the first 4 years is the foundation years where a child’s character is moulded. that’s why i wanted to stay home. and it doesn’t take a teacher to know that…. ;p
Monday, 28 May 2007 @ 10:04pm